Working the Steps

Step 10 : We continue to take personal inventory and when we are wrong promptly admit it.

"Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matter. It should continue for our lifetime."

By step 9, we probably have improved grosser flaws in our makeup. About ten years sober, with 8 years of Big Book focused step work, my sober life still had rough edges. I returned to college at age 57, studied Interpersonal and Group Communications, Logic, Psychologies - 101, Abnormal, Child , Adolescent - Crisis Intervention/Counseling, etc.

Gradually, I added 12&12 step meetings. I believe now that the 12&12 was inspired by early AA's struggling with rough edges even after grosser defects were treated by the Big Book. The 12&12 Steps 8 thru 12 plus the Traditions add much guidance to correct thinking behind rough edges of behavior.

Again from the Big Book p84, perhaps my most important alternatives to drinking,

* "Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear.
* When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them.
* We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone.
* Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.
* Love and tolerance of others is our code."

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